Unlike other things I start and am unable to finish, this whole no TV thing is actually working. Kind of. I'm not above turning on a movie for the boys once in a while, but we have to go all the way to the basement to do it, so that makes it more work. And Scott and I have been watching the Olympics after the boys go to bed, so there's that.
But the cool thing is that the boys are actually having a good time without TV. I've created a cozy reading spot in the playroom and Ben loves reading in it. In fact, the other day I asked him if he wanted to come play Grocery Store with me, and he said "well, maybe in a bit, after I'm done reading." I was totally fine with that.
The fighting between the boys has lessened, and I attribute it to both the TV being gone and my intervention. My M.O. used to be to just sit back and let them figure out their issues. As long as nobody was getting hurt, I thought, I need not interfere. They needed to figure this stuff out on their own.
But they weren't figuring it out.
Now, when I hear things start to escalate, I go in and tell Ben that it is not acceptable to yell at people and that he needs to use a calm voice to tell his brother what it is that he needs or wants from him. I've also found that making them sit together, holding hands, for five minutes helps.
Things are coming around in this house, I can feel it.
Now, off to break up the first fight of the morning...